Divorce and blended families

This week we talked about divorce and blended families. As human beings we should avoid getting divorced at least the situation is extremely required. It is important to know that when we start dating to someone, we should become best friends and know everything about the person. Sometimes, we think because we are in love everything is going to be ok. I am not agree with that because the couple not only should be in love, but know each other so the love can last for eternity. The fact that someone is in love it doesn't mean that this love last forever at least the person work things out every day. Love is the essence of the human being. However, if we don't nurture this love every day, it will die through time. Therefore, couples need to have time to nurture their love through different way as date once a week, help each other etc. However, there will be couple that will go through a divorce. In class I have learned that there are six stages of divorce. This stages are: emotional, legal, economic, co-parental, communities and psychic.

Emotional divorce involves a loss of trust, respect, and affection for each other. Rather than supporting each other, the spouses act in ways to hurt, to frustrate, to lower self-esteem. For this reason couple start being distant until they decide to live their lives.

Legal divorce, in which a court officially brings the marriage to an end. Therefore, the couple can live their own lives and if one of the find someone can remarry again.

Economic divorce involves settlement of the property. This part of the divorce is the one that people can get frustrated because they don't get what they want in most of the cases.

The co-parental divorce is experienced by those with children-about thirds all couples. Decisions be made about who will have custody, visitation rights, and continuing parental responsibilities. This part of the divorce is the most complicated because the parents use their children as weapons against each other or even fail to protect them from the conflict and bitterness of the struggle.

The community divorce means that each of the partners leaves one community of friends and relations and enters another. When people get divorced can be uncomfortable with some of the friends he or she shared with the former spouse, especially if there is a feeling that the friends were more sympathetic with the former spouse.

Last, the psychic divorce is the central separation that occurs-the individual must accept the disruption of the relationship and regular a sense of being an individual rather than a part of an intimate couple.

This stages tell us that divorce it is more complicated that we think. Therefore, we should avoid it. However, if divorce happens, there is still hope for those that want to find happiness again in their lives. I have gone through this situation and it is painful. However, I hope to find happiness in the future.

Pareting

Parenting is a great blessing that couples could have despite of the problems and the stresses that are involved. The great majority of those who are parents indicate that the experience has given them great satisfaction. Even when they lack some of the resources they would prefer to have. My grandmother had two children and she told me that she would love to have four instead. The reason that she could have more is because my grandmother and grandfather both were working to support my father and my aunt. They both worked very hard for their children. Parenting is a great blessing because it brings the best of both parents.  Now, I am going to go through the styles of parenting that I learned in class.

Authoritarian parenting this style approach maximum control and to expect unquestioning obedience. Children may perceive such parents as rejecting and as refusing to give them any autonomy. This style is not good for children because they grow up in an environment of fear. Children should have their free agency. However, parents are the ones to help make their right decisions by themselves.

Authoritative discipline this style is to put boundaries acceptable behavior with a warm, acceptable context. Children are likely to perceive such an atmosphere as one that encourages their autonomy, controls their behavior moderately, and allows them to express their opinio0ns and develop their won decision-making ability. This style is great because it creates confident in children's life. Children should grow up in a healthy environment where they can feel their parents love them through understanding their needs and help them to meet them.

Permissive parenting style is to minimize ay control. Children are encouraged to make their own decisions  and develop their independence with few or no parental constraints or guidance. This kind of parent is called " cool parents". This is style is not smart because children don't know how to face their lives because they don't have guidance to make good decisions in live. It is better to have parents that guide you and make you grow instead of having parents that leave their children make lousy decisions that they are going to regret in the long run.

Parenting is not easy job because it involves a lot of responsibilities and time. However, parenting is the most rewarded job in the long run. I know that there are some parents out there that have challenges with their children, but if they keep working with them, God will help them.