Divorce and blended families

This week we talked about divorce and blended families. As human beings we should avoid getting divorced at least the situation is extremely required. It is important to know that when we start dating to someone, we should become best friends and know everything about the person. Sometimes, we think because we are in love everything is going to be ok. I am not agree with that because the couple not only should be in love, but know each other so the love can last for eternity. The fact that someone is in love it doesn't mean that this love last forever at least the person work things out every day. Love is the essence of the human being. However, if we don't nurture this love every day, it will die through time. Therefore, couples need to have time to nurture their love through different way as date once a week, help each other etc. However, there will be couple that will go through a divorce. In class I have learned that there are six stages of divorce. This stages are: emotional, legal, economic, co-parental, communities and psychic.

Emotional divorce involves a loss of trust, respect, and affection for each other. Rather than supporting each other, the spouses act in ways to hurt, to frustrate, to lower self-esteem. For this reason couple start being distant until they decide to live their lives.

Legal divorce, in which a court officially brings the marriage to an end. Therefore, the couple can live their own lives and if one of the find someone can remarry again.

Economic divorce involves settlement of the property. This part of the divorce is the one that people can get frustrated because they don't get what they want in most of the cases.

The co-parental divorce is experienced by those with children-about thirds all couples. Decisions be made about who will have custody, visitation rights, and continuing parental responsibilities. This part of the divorce is the most complicated because the parents use their children as weapons against each other or even fail to protect them from the conflict and bitterness of the struggle.

The community divorce means that each of the partners leaves one community of friends and relations and enters another. When people get divorced can be uncomfortable with some of the friends he or she shared with the former spouse, especially if there is a feeling that the friends were more sympathetic with the former spouse.

Last, the psychic divorce is the central separation that occurs-the individual must accept the disruption of the relationship and regular a sense of being an individual rather than a part of an intimate couple.

This stages tell us that divorce it is more complicated that we think. Therefore, we should avoid it. However, if divorce happens, there is still hope for those that want to find happiness again in their lives. I have gone through this situation and it is painful. However, I hope to find happiness in the future.